How to Let Go (For Insecure Attachment Style)

Learning to let go is one of the most important things you can do as an adult. For people who have an insecure attachment style, this can be incredibly difficult. When you are attached to something, it’s because you have given it some kind of meaning. What you are really attached to is the meaning that you have assigned to this person or thing. You need to let go of things that are not serving you.

Take a mental inventory, write it down if you need to. Do a cost/benefit analysis.

For people with insecure attachment styles, they felt like they were out of control as children. So as adults, they often try to micromanage and they want to control things, people, and the outcomes. This ends up causing the opposite to happen because of the energy you are putting off.

While you are being weighed down with these negative emotions and energy you are not open to the right thing or person coming into your life. Let go of the desire to run from the negative emotions you don’t want to feel – like shame, rejection, hurt, and abandonment.

This has to do with your self-image, your identity, and the power that you are giving to that thing that you don’t want to let go of. For many people who were traumatized or neglected as children they didn’t get a chance to build up a strong send of self, maybe they were constantly put down and told you are bad, you are worthless. Maybe they were made to feel shame when they expressed themselves, maybe they had to walk on eggshells and learned to become people pleasers and change themselves to keep others around them happy.

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