How To Be More Assertive?
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How To Be More Assertive? Assertiveness is often defined as the ability to express opinions, feelings, attitudes, and wishes, and claim one's rights, at the right time, without undue anxiety, and in a way that does not affect the rights of others.
Conventional wisdom says that assertive people succeed. They speak their minds, request the resources they need, express their wishes and feelings, and don't take no for an answer.
But if you are not an assertive person you should not worry, you can become assertive, ask for what you need and get what you want, while still being yourself.
The keys to assertiveness: Learn to be assertive!:
- Start small
If the idea of being assertive makes you feel especially bad or insecure, start with low-risk situations. For example, if you order a hamburger, and the waiter brings you a grilled salmon, make him see his mistake and send it back.
If you go shopping with your partner and are trying to decide on a place to eat, express your opinion when choosing where to go.
Once you feel comfortable in these low-risk situations, begin by gradually building up the difficulty.
- Start by saying no
On the road to being more assertive, he is NOT your best partner. You must say no more often. It is possible to be firm and determined with NO while still being considerate.
Saying that it can't make you feel anxious at first, but over time you will come to feel good and quite liberated.
Some people are likely to be disappointed in this new situation. But remember that as long as you express your needs in a considerate way, you are in no way responsible for his reaction.
- Be simple and direct
When you are asserting yourself, less is more. Make your requests in a simple and direct way. There is no need for elaborate explanations (see below). It is enough to politely say what you think, feel or want.
- Use the "I"
When making a request or expressing disapproval, use the "I". Always do it in the first person. Instead of saying, “You are very inconsiderate. You have no idea how hard this day has been. Why are you asking me to do all these tasks? "You should say," I'm exhausted today. I see you want me to do all these things, but I won't be able to do them until tomorrow.
- Don't apologize for expressing a need or want
Unless you are asking for something that is manifestly unreasonable, there is no reason to feel guilty or ashamed for expressing a need or desire.
So stop apologizing when you ask for something. Just ask politely and wait to see how the other person responds. Being assertive is communicating.
- Use body language and tone of voice
You must appear confident when making a request or indicating a preference. Standing up, leaning a little, smiling or maintaining a neutral facial expression, looking the person in the eye, are actions that denote security. You should also make sure you speak clearly and loudly enough.
- You don't have to justify or explain your opinion
When you make a decision or give an opinion that others do not agree with, one way they will try to exert control over you is by demanding that you give a justification for your choice, opinion or behavior. If you can't find a sufficient reason, they assume that you must agree to what they want.
Non-assertive people, with their need to please, feel compelled to provide an explanation or justification for every choice they make, even if the other person did not ask for it.
They want to make sure that everyone agrees with their choices, and so what they are doing is asking permission to live their own lives.
- Be persistent
Sometimes you are faced with situations in which you initially cannot find an answer to your requests. Don't just tell yourself, "At least I tried." Often to be treated fairly you have to be persistent.
For example, if you had a flight canceled, keep asking about other options, like being transferred to another airline, so you can get to your destination on time.
- keep calm
If someone disagrees or disapproves of your choice, opinion or request, you should not get angry or defensive. It is better to seek a constructive response or decide to avoid this person in future situations.
- Choose your battles
A common mistake we make along the way to being more assertive is trying to be assertive all the time. Assertiveness is situational and contextual. There may be cases where being assertive will get you nowhere and taking a more aggressive or passive stance is the best option.
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